Always value your true worth - even if you don’t feel others see it.
The most important part is that YOU see it, regardless of opinion/s (coming from those outside of yourself).
Sometimes, we want specific people to see something special in us, but the fact is, the ‘right’ people will see it without any effort on our part (except for our willingness to be transparent).
Those that don’t see value in us, simply won’t & we cannot influence or change the minds/perceptions of others. No amount of ‘molding’ ourselves to the other person will make a difference.
However, this is not to be confused with compromise. When we meet another, we will always have to meet half-way, as despite similarities, there are also differences.
Our views of the world cannot be totally identical. They are as unique as a fingerprint. As a result, compromise is still of relevance.
An additional way we devalue ourselves is by ‘settling’ for certain people simply as we lack patience, love for ourselves, trust or hope that things will unfold for us when the timing is ‘right’.
Perceived loneliness can be difficult, but this is more due to our attachments to others or external pleasures (intimacy).
Loneliness can be a very beneficial period in our lives if used wisely & consciously.
For example, we can identify unresolved issues, work on our growth & simply reconnect with ourselves at a deeper level.
The key at all times is to shift out of victim mentality. We are not being ‘punished’ by life, God or the universe.
Instead, we are being given a gift - one that is denied to many that are enmeshed in relationships of various kinds or to those stuck in their thinking.
Define who you are at a deeper level, value & cherish it. Only seek to make connections with those that see the sacredness of your being - to do this, is integral to a balanced relationship with another.
A true relationship is one where both individuals can live in their power & truth, while both continue to grow, learn, support & inspire the other. One where there is mutual trust, respect, transparency & love (without attachment or neediness).
Love yourself first before attempting to love another, identify attachments & make yourself whole.
George Dokas
(Source: bensainty)
